Disclaimer: I am an atheist. I’m out and loud about my atheism. However, this post isn’t about my beliefs or your beliefs. It’s about some’s ignorant beliefs when it comes to mental illness and mental health.
This rant is about a type of toxic positivity
(Check out the article, linked above)
I read a great article the other day on the subject by Natasha Tracey over at her website, Bipolar Burble. I highly suggest you read her thoughts on the subject because I relate to her attitude towards positivity BS.
So, what is toxic positivity?
Psychology Today defines toxic positivity as “the concept that keeping positive, and keeping positive only, is the right way to live your life. It means only focusing on positive things and rejecting anything that may trigger negative emotions.”
Too much positivity turns into toxic positivity. There’s a lack of empathy towards the person struggling.
It’s being told that what worked for one person with mental illness should work for you too.
This state of mind can be deadly for so many battling mental illnesses, from anxiety to schizophrenia.
Go for a walk, think positive, exercise, take this MLM supplement.
I know some of these coping techniques can aid in positive mental health. However, none of these suggestions are a cure for mental illness.
So, where does religion come into play?
I have seen so many memes, so many Facebook posts, so many social media comments telling people who are struggling that if they just find Jesus and think positive, they’ll be healed.
I call complete bull-fucking-shit.
Not only are these comments annoying but they can hurt people. They do, in fact, hurt people.
I will restrain myself from ranting about other aspects of Christian propaganda (which is very hard for me to do) but this needs to stop.
Whether you believe in God or Jesus, they do not heal mental illness. They don’t take away the trauma you’re holding on to. They don’t prevent mood swings. They don’t stop hallucinations.
These comments insinuate that when you’re struggling, you shouldn’t see a professional nor should you consider medication. Because JESUS will save you. It’s infuriating.
When people are fed toxic positivity, they don’t get help for years. That’s what happened to me, though my story didn’t revolve around religion. Or they end up committing suicide.
Ignorant comments like these are, in fact, causing death.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m sure religion helps those who are religious and struggling. But religion is NOT a substitute for professional health.
I don’t care if someone has good intentions. There’s no time for ignorance in mental health. Too many are dying by suicide or overdoses or both.
We have the internet and mental health is such an important topic. There’s no excuse for ignorance.
Why do we live in a world where it’s only considered serious if someone is in psychosis, hallucinating, or are already dead?
This happened to my mom recently. She was also told if she didn’t like the skeleton aesthetics, she wouldn’t be depressed. Are you kidding me?!
- My therapist loaned me Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson. So far, it’s a great read and hits home a bit too hard. I highly recommend it.
- I have been following the Onision/Greg Jackson dilemma on YouTube. This man is abhorrent but these females are getting justice. That’s beautiful. I’m so invested in it because (I wasn’t groomed like a few) I was emotionally abused by an ex. My ex wasn’t as bad but some of these females’ stories hit home so hard because they were much too familiar. If you don’t know what’s going on, check it out. He’s a YouTube star that’s taken advantage of his platform to both groom teenage girls and to manipulate his girlfriends (and wives) throughout the years.
- I’m seriously considering opening a YouTube channel on mental health. It could be a passing interest or it could turn into something more. I’m not sure. Opinions?
Love as Always,
Casey Elizabeth ❤